July Happenings
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*Short Note:
Err… know what. I went to UBD last week hoping to take my result slip and
guess what, someone took it already. I’d asked everywhere and ...
10 hours ago
Friday, 10 July 2009
Tuesday, 21 April 2009
Exam Postponed
Sigh and a relief but I would have rather got it over and done with. The butterflies in my stomach have given birth to new pupas hence escalating the sensation of nervousness.
Please bear with me and I would like to thank people who have been giving support and advice.
Please bear with me and I would like to thank people who have been giving support and advice.
Wednesday, 8 April 2009
Exam Coming Up
My apologies to all readers who usually stop by or frequent my blog as I haven't been updating it. I'm suspending my posts for a week or so to make way for study time for my upcoming exam.
Will be back and posting as usual after the 17th of April.
Thank You all and God bless.
Tuesday, 24 March 2009
2,3 or 4
Would you dare use your right to marry again? Is culture a factor that discourages you from gaining another wife?
But firstly, the question is why do you need to marry again? Aside from sterility or other reasons to marry again, let's say you are financially stable or earning at a surplus, that you are able to be fair to your wives and you think that permission will be granted or 'green light' has been given.
As a man, you have been given the right with certain conditions to allow you to marry again. Will the procedure of 'naik pelamin' hinder you from doing it? Will the surrounding voices hinder you from taking the leap? Do you have a reputation to uphold? This comes back to the initial question that will strengthen or discourage your 'will' to marry again.
Wives usually have their own 'clique', be it family or girlfriends. Men are much more likely to be stand alones and socially unattached. When it comes down to women who have been religiously educated, they are more willing to allow their husbands as it would prevent their husbands from committing sins such as having affairs that cause social problems, currently or in the future.
What I have observed in certain countries that it is a 'norm' for the men to freely exercise their rights without constraints but as to how much they adhere to the conditions is still questionable.
So is it that they are more religious than us or is it that their culture understands and accepts it? Many a times, culture seem to have more weight than religion. What we must not forget is that, we still have religion even if we do not have a culture.
But firstly, the question is why do you need to marry again? Aside from sterility or other reasons to marry again, let's say you are financially stable or earning at a surplus, that you are able to be fair to your wives and you think that permission will be granted or 'green light' has been given.
As a man, you have been given the right with certain conditions to allow you to marry again. Will the procedure of 'naik pelamin' hinder you from doing it? Will the surrounding voices hinder you from taking the leap? Do you have a reputation to uphold? This comes back to the initial question that will strengthen or discourage your 'will' to marry again.
Wives usually have their own 'clique', be it family or girlfriends. Men are much more likely to be stand alones and socially unattached. When it comes down to women who have been religiously educated, they are more willing to allow their husbands as it would prevent their husbands from committing sins such as having affairs that cause social problems, currently or in the future.
What I have observed in certain countries that it is a 'norm' for the men to freely exercise their rights without constraints but as to how much they adhere to the conditions is still questionable.
So is it that they are more religious than us or is it that their culture understands and accepts it? Many a times, culture seem to have more weight than religion. What we must not forget is that, we still have religion even if we do not have a culture.
Dan Sebenarnya - Yuna
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BRjkC_OKoRo
Wow...that's pretty much I can say for now. Enjoy her video peeps! :)
Wow...that's pretty much I can say for now. Enjoy her video peeps! :)
Friday, 13 March 2009
2 Segments
Kerbau on the highway
Tekiding informed me that they were 'kerbau' on the loose last night. What a concoction for disaster as last night it was raining quite heavily as well. It was in the area right after the police post along the KB-Muara highway towards KB. There are a few 'kebun' in that vicinity from which these animals might have escaped from or were going for greener pastures.
The animals made their way onto the highway itself after successfully making a surprising jump or a leap of faith over the metal safety barriers on the side. Luckily enough, nobody was hurt except some hearts had to be put back in its place after dropping from their cadavers.
To the owners of these animals, please put a leash on them or at least fortify your fencing. If you can afford to buy these animals, make it a note that you should be wise enough to afford to keep them around rather than keep them astray and be hit by cars.
Un-ignore our males
Astaghfirullahulazim. Oh no. My heart sank when I read yesterday's BB regarding a mother prostituting her two daughters. But as I read on I looked for the parts on what happened to the men who were 'hiring' the two girls. It only said arrested.
If in fact they were arrested, convicted and sentenced, it should have been publicised alongside with the mother's story. Many times have I come across news articles, not necessarily local news, of men being caught in bed with women who were soliciting for sex but it is the women who were publicised in being prosecuted. What happened to the men? The 'demand' should be curbed as well and not just the 'supply'. How?
Okay. Let's keep it short and simple. No feminists or male chauvinists remarks but let's look at reality and how the world works. Men are much more capable than women in terms of destruction. So what should be done is to capitalise more on making men of better qualities. Teach and guide young boys rather than ignore or assume they will be alright because 'boys will be boys' and they are tough enough.
Without educating and guiding boys to be better men, what we would get is (irresponsible, self indulging, domestic abusers, hypocritical, cable stealing, mama's boy, debt ridden, bad 'bosses', wife hopping, fathering bas****s) just to name a few types.
I say again that men are much more capable of destruction compared to women not necessarily in terms of physical destruction but also socially and politically. We need to minimise men of destructive qualities as we men are as capable to do much good especially to our women. Protecting women, our religion and country at the same time.
I distinctively remember one sabda from Prophet Muhammad who asked a man why he hit his wife and the man replied that she was hard headed and ignorant. Our Prophet again asked why he hit 'his wife, mother of his children and his sleeping partner'. It all comes down to the man.
I promised to keep it short and to summarise we need to stop ignoring our boys and men, educate them and responsibly, don't think it's okay for them to stay out late as they are boys, tell them how to choose good friends and be physically active for sports and social activities.
Who's the best teacher for boys? Good mothers and women. Role models? Good fathers.
Tekiding informed me that they were 'kerbau' on the loose last night. What a concoction for disaster as last night it was raining quite heavily as well. It was in the area right after the police post along the KB-Muara highway towards KB. There are a few 'kebun' in that vicinity from which these animals might have escaped from or were going for greener pastures.
The animals made their way onto the highway itself after successfully making a surprising jump or a leap of faith over the metal safety barriers on the side. Luckily enough, nobody was hurt except some hearts had to be put back in its place after dropping from their cadavers.
To the owners of these animals, please put a leash on them or at least fortify your fencing. If you can afford to buy these animals, make it a note that you should be wise enough to afford to keep them around rather than keep them astray and be hit by cars.
Un-ignore our males
Astaghfirullahulazim. Oh no. My heart sank when I read yesterday's BB regarding a mother prostituting her two daughters. But as I read on I looked for the parts on what happened to the men who were 'hiring' the two girls. It only said arrested.
If in fact they were arrested, convicted and sentenced, it should have been publicised alongside with the mother's story. Many times have I come across news articles, not necessarily local news, of men being caught in bed with women who were soliciting for sex but it is the women who were publicised in being prosecuted. What happened to the men? The 'demand' should be curbed as well and not just the 'supply'. How?
Okay. Let's keep it short and simple. No feminists or male chauvinists remarks but let's look at reality and how the world works. Men are much more capable than women in terms of destruction. So what should be done is to capitalise more on making men of better qualities. Teach and guide young boys rather than ignore or assume they will be alright because 'boys will be boys' and they are tough enough.
Without educating and guiding boys to be better men, what we would get is (irresponsible, self indulging, domestic abusers, hypocritical, cable stealing, mama's boy, debt ridden, bad 'bosses', wife hopping, fathering bas****s) just to name a few types.
I say again that men are much more capable of destruction compared to women not necessarily in terms of physical destruction but also socially and politically. We need to minimise men of destructive qualities as we men are as capable to do much good especially to our women. Protecting women, our religion and country at the same time.
I distinctively remember one sabda from Prophet Muhammad who asked a man why he hit his wife and the man replied that she was hard headed and ignorant. Our Prophet again asked why he hit 'his wife, mother of his children and his sleeping partner'. It all comes down to the man.
I promised to keep it short and to summarise we need to stop ignoring our boys and men, educate them and responsibly, don't think it's okay for them to stay out late as they are boys, tell them how to choose good friends and be physically active for sports and social activities.
Who's the best teacher for boys? Good mothers and women. Role models? Good fathers.
Khutbah Jumaat 13/03/2009
I was quite happy when I heard this khutbah today and I totally agree with it. That marriages are supposed to be spiritually and religiously themed. With this being said, there is a line to be drawn between tradition, culture and religion.
Traditionally, malay grooms wear golden bracelets on their wrists, golden badges on their songkok or golden necklaces around their necks.
Culturally, begambus or karaoke, main katam or samchong? are usually held or played to pass time, intensify the wedding moments or just social bonding between relatives.
Religiouslly, we pray 'doa selamat' and prepare a buffet of food for our invited guests.
But my interest was holding the nikah at the mosque itself. Some may shun away from mosques as an ideal place to hold this auspicious occassion as it may invite opinions of affordability. By right it should be held at mosques I would say as it is a religious activity that we are doing and where else better to do it?
Somehow, a cool feeling envelopes just at the idea of going to the mosque for a nikah ceremony.
Not only mosques are ideal places to hold marriages and religious talks or recitals but also for family activities where children are brought along 'to the mosque'. Examples would include holding leadership and entrepreneur skills courses for muslim teenagers, drawing contests or quizzes for the young or for the old, and non Romanised literate, using the Jawi keyboard on a pc or notebook for their compositions of poems, essays or even historical backgrounds. Another example that I know is that once Masjid Jubilee in Jangsak held a contest for 'khutbah recitation' for teenagers.
Why at the mosque? It's symbolic, a landmark and an Islamic icon.
The benefits of attracting the young to go to the mosque, being more creative with religion as a guideline and not sacrifing it in part or wholly, constantly reminding us of our religion subconciously.
And for the financial part of weddings, it is for us to 'sukat baju dibadan sendiri' or 'tailor our clothes to our measurements' and do not over indulge oursleves eventhough we can afford lavish or big weddings.
I recalled during the khutbah that Mr BR of Bruneiresources incorporated into his blog a calculation of what may be incurred at a wedding and this is quite useful as it allows us to plan ahead.
Click here for wedding costs comments,
http://bruneiresources.blogspot.com/2006/12/wedding-costs-again.html
and here to download the excel form for wedding or death costs,
http://bruneiresources.blogspot.com/2006/05/life-and-death.html
Angel Beach, Tutong
Many including myself were unaware of this beach that you could actually rent for a day. Located just right after Pantai Seri Kenangan in Tutong and you can't miss the entrance as there's a signboard on the right. Nice for birthday parties, family outings especially for people who prefer privacy when having family functions.According to Harris, contact no 8981614/8775331 the rental price is negotiable based on the size of the group, the duration and even if you're willing to share with another group using it on the same day. An example would be for a group of 30 for a full day would be around the price of $350. Facilities include toilets, showers, volleyball area, barbeque standings, several huts and a lookout tower.
Please book in advance and enjoy your own private beach for a day or night!
This is important: Please do get his advise regarding tide times when planning to have a swim during your function.
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